Let’stalk about keeping our agreements in relationships. The signeddocuments we agreed upon prior to entering this dispensation of time.How do I know such documents exist? The same way you do. They areinexorably intertwined in all of the conflicting, complicated, anddubiously infiltrated emotionally intemperate infuriatingly mangledinvolvements that saturate our lives on a daily basis. You knowperfectly well what I’m talking about; unless, (due to ignoring thered flashing signs of soul’s discontent) you have numbed yourselfinto oblivion by simply going through the motions of expectancy,conformity and self-righteous duty. In that case, the exploration anddissection of such indefinable ‘cosmic’ agreements should be thefirst appointment on your agenda.

AlthoughI am accustomed to writing what is referred to as MODE of CosmicTherapy esoteric material, the fact is: it’s in the common everydayoccurrences that keeping our ‘cosmic’ agreements abide. Classicexample (case in point); how many times do you use the word, “Don’t”in a conversation; most especially when dealing with your significantother? From this point on, should you become conscious of youringrained resistance to change, the word,”Don’t” will stick outlike a sore thumb. Keeping your agreements involves moving throughthe so called rough spots with full consciousness without harboringany resentment, guilt, remorse or regret. It also requires of you tobe detached enough without being emotionally stoic (sexuallyanesthetized) to see the larger picture unfolding right before youreyes.

Weare learning how to remember to be totally invested in ourrelationships without needing ‘special attention’ as a means toboost/support our impish personalities.  We must face the facts,because we are human beings that we are king daddy manipulators andtycoon drama queens. We want to believe we ‘run’ the show! Notonly do we demand the security of a predetermined outcome to ourfruity crafted scenarios, we demand it be accompanied by verydefinite guidelines and conditions. In other words, the wordsspontaneous and flexible do not enter into the romantic picture. We are far too concerned over “how much energy and effort I’veput into this union” to kick back, relax and let the sexual juicesflow.

So consumed arewe with the appearances of our sexual relationships, we tend toforget the purpose for their being established in the first place. Toteach us invaluable lessons of which would be impossible toexperience had we not invented the barrage of emotional strainattached to them. We thrive off the chaos, uncertainty and tyrannicalcompeting episodes. Some of our darkest moments of commitment issuedconfrontations would give “Law and Order” a run for its money. But, none-the-less severe, are the  ealousy/accusing(suspicions of infidelity) problems we continue to assert as if theconversation was a ‘do or die’ matter. We run into all sorts ofvaricose veined anxieties simply because we won’t accept our‘cosmic papers’ of purposeful sexually designed relationshipwithout so much bull shit attached.

Whydo we persist in consuming our mind with such contradictoryalienating energy? Are we really that self-absorbed that we need tobe constantly entertained by and through emotional tantrums? Theabsurdity falls under the banner of vanity, self-serving sensualgluttony! You have certainly read or been exposed to the often quotedphrase from the Bible: “The thing I feared the most has come uponme.”  (paraphrased) Well, duh! How can we expect our life tobe anything other than filled to over flowing capacity withnegativity and insecurity when we breed competitive lonelinessthemed patterns like rabbits? The relationships problems are adirect link to your deeply imbedded dread of dissolving away;becoming unimportant.

Here’sthe deal for real. In order for you to get over your immenselysaturated sense of insecurity which is paralyzing and stifling thepotential talents and gifts you possess [because they are corroded byleft over anger, resentment and fear of future loss, in addition tobeing tangled up in all sorts of unresolved sexual issues], and inorder to release your total obsession with the other, you must acceptthe reality of your ‘cosmic’ signed contracts.  You mustfinish what you started, regardless of whether you remember signingany such relationship contracts.  You can not cheat.  Youcan not bail out. You must stay the course. Now, some of you maycertainly ask, “But, what about divorce Paula?  Are you sayingI can’t divorce or I shouldn’t have divorced?  No, I am notsaying that at all. Eliminate your conversation regarding divorcewhen the trail is not leading in that direction. How will you know? You’ll stay married; that’s how. (or involved whichever the casemay be) If divorce was in your cosmic contract, accept it. You neednot dwell in the past repeating over and over how it could have beendifferent.  Not so. Get on with the next set of karmicinstructions.

Toomuch energy is wasted in futile talk simply for the attachment toemotional drama. Spend your time better engaged in projects you findinteresting, gratifying and surprising, too. My point is: keep youragreements. Stop whining, pining, and reminiscing over something thatcould, would and shall not be any different than what it is; thetruth stands while the rest falls away. Who cares how many bends inthe relationship road? It all straightens out after (during and inbetween) a while without your insistent paranoid interference. Giveit a rest. It’s high time you made a quantum leap in consciousness.You are to ease off the throttle.  You will do nothing more orany less than what you agreed upon prior to entering earth. So thegig’s up! [Stop griping, complaining, and smearing the tales ofwoe.]  Remember: You signed the ‘cosmic’ contract; youagreed to experience, learn and stick with the sexual lessonsspecifically ascribed to your personal relationships, feeding yoursoul’s appetitive for earth’s undaunted menu of pleasure andpain.